What folks in this hobby call "waste water," might be better thought of as "flush water" in that it flushes away from the membrane all the things the membrane doesn't allow to pass through. The 4:1 ratio comes from the recommendations of the membrane manufacturers.
You can change that ratio with a little $4 flow restrictor, but as mentioned above you risk prematurely building up scale in the membrane. If you have very low TDS feedwater (we talked to a customer today with feedwater at 35 ppm), or softened feedwater, you'll be more successful with a ratio lower than 4 to 1.
Russ