Been there, done that.
Hello my name is Brandon and I'm addicted to fish. I've known this for a while but tonight I realized it. I'm Doug my daily Craigslist searching and I found a 120 with stand filterx4 heaterx4 air pump air stones protein skimmer erc etc for 200 bucks. Mandi says no. I'm seriously contemplating just pissing her off and getting this set up. anyone want to buy some fry to help pay for this puppy!?
Been there, done that.
I find what works best is compromise rather than doing something that will piss off your soon to be spouse.
Find something she wants you to do or buy for her in exchange for another tank. Win-win. Rather than win-lose. A relationship with win-lose scenarios does not work in the long run. People tend to get resentful, spiteful, feel disrespected, and do not feel like it is an equal partnership.
Screw her and do what makes you happy.
In my marriage at least, I don't need to ask or get permission to buy anything. Nor does my wife. But we also are on the same page as far as what is acceptable spending and what is not. Sometimes we each stretch those boundaries a bit...but no harm-no foul.
Not every situation has to be win-win or win-lose. nothing is wrong with one person 'winning' and the other person just being happy for them.
That said I re-read your original post and if she said "no". Thought you wrote you wrote that she would say no so you were just going to get it.
ive been married 25 years, and as long as the bills are paid and everything is taken care of and 1 of us wants to have some fun money to blow nothing wrong with that, i dont tell him no and he doesnt tell me no,, but neither one of us would do something that we know would pi$$ the other off,, in that case we NEED to talk about it 1st,, I do think Trier20 should think how can he make his woman happy enough to be able to get it without a fight,,,I think Pacman must be single,,,LOL
** I use to dream of Unicorns ** NOW I dream of Discus with the colors of the Rainbow **
Maybe we are all looking at this wrong
Maybe he needs someone to tell him "no". maybe finding a way to get the tank is not the best idea right now.
Just a thought
Man Brandon, you're a brave man. Your fiancee is a chef so she's got to be good with a knife. I'd be negotiating a yes somehow.
Brandon might be too young to remember Lorena, but I'm not!