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    Hello my name is Brandon and I'm addicted to fish. I've known this for a while but tonight I realized it. I'm Doug my daily Craigslist searching and I found a 120 with stand filterx4 heaterx4 air pump air stones protein skimmer erc etc for 200 bucks. Mandi says no. I'm seriously contemplating just pissing her off and getting this set up. anyone want to buy some fry to help pay for this puppy!?
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    Default Re: I'm addicted to fish!

    Been there, done that.

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    I find what works best is compromise rather than doing something that will piss off your soon to be spouse.
    Find something she wants you to do or buy for her in exchange for another tank. Win-win. Rather than win-lose. A relationship with win-lose scenarios does not work in the long run. People tend to get resentful, spiteful, feel disrespected, and do not feel like it is an equal partnership.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Orange Crush View Post
    I find what works best is compromise rather than doing something that will piss off your soon to be spouse.
    Find something she wants you to do or buy for her in exchange for another tank. Win-win. Rather than win-lose. A relationship with win-lose scenarios does not work in the long run. People tend to get resentful, spiteful, feel disrespected, and do not feel like it is an equal partnership.
    Yea I know. This is just one of those deals you don't like to see to past you.
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    Screw her and do what makes you happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pacman5038 View Post
    Screw her and do what makes you happy.
    if he does that,, he might just be doing "that" to himself...
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    Quote Originally Posted by pacman5038 View Post
    Screw her and do what makes you happy.
    Bad idea. That attitude will lead to one if not both people unhappy.

    Quote Originally Posted by Coffee1stLife2nd View Post
    if he does that,, he might just be doing "that" to himself...
    +1 lol
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    In my marriage at least, I don't need to ask or get permission to buy anything. Nor does my wife. But we also are on the same page as far as what is acceptable spending and what is not. Sometimes we each stretch those boundaries a bit...but no harm-no foul.

    Not every situation has to be win-win or win-lose. nothing is wrong with one person 'winning' and the other person just being happy for them.

    That said I re-read your original post and if she said "no". Thought you wrote you wrote that she would say no so you were just going to get it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dprais1 View Post
    In my marriage at least, I don't need to ask or get permission to buy anything. Nor does my wife. But we also are on the same page as far as what is acceptable spending and what is not. Sometimes we each stretch those boundaries a bit...but no harm-no foul.
    That is how my marriage works, no permission needed for buying stuff. We keep our money seperate. We each pay half of the bills but can do whatever we want with the rest of our money. I think he spends his money on silly things and I am sure he thinks all the money I spend on fish stuff is silly too. lol
    Quote Originally Posted by dprais1 View Post
    That said I re-read your original post and if she said "no". Thought you wrote that she would say no so you were just going to get it.
    That is the issue; she said no. She will not "just be happy for him" in this instance. So, I think he should find a way to get the tank and find a way to make her happy too. As a fellow fish addict, I would hate to have to pass on such a good deal.
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    ive been married 25 years, and as long as the bills are paid and everything is taken care of and 1 of us wants to have some fun money to blow nothing wrong with that, i dont tell him no and he doesnt tell me no,, but neither one of us would do something that we know would pi$$ the other off,, in that case we NEED to talk about it 1st,, I do think Trier20 should think how can he make his woman happy enough to be able to get it without a fight,,,I think Pacman must be single,,,LOL
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    Maybe we are all looking at this wrong

    Maybe he needs someone to tell him "no". maybe finding a way to get the tank is not the best idea right now.

    Just a thought

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    Man Brandon, you're a brave man. Your fiancee is a chef so she's got to be good with a knife. I'd be negotiating a yes somehow.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Orange Crush View Post
    If the woman is not happy then no one is happy.
    +1, aint that the truth!
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    Quote Originally Posted by CozyKeith View Post
    Man Brandon, you're a brave man. Your fiancee is a chef so she's got to be good with a knife. I'd be negotiating a yes somehow.
    The name Bobbit comes to mind....
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    Brandon might be too young to remember Lorena, but I'm not!
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