Hey Al.
So sorry to hear about your dad. An amazing story. My parents were from Ireland and they had only 5,
but my God 11. Your parent were awesome individuals.
May the wind be always at his back and the sun shine down upon his face
and may God hold him in the hollow of his hands.
Rest in peace Mr. Sabbetta.
Im so sorry to hear about your loss Al
Do you need help with funeral expenses Al?
Mama Bear
I cannot begin to imagine the pain and sadness you are experiencing in this moment. Know that he loved you and the care that you gave him until his final day was the very best you give him.
The world needs more people like your father. Rest in peace.
So sorry for your loss Al. Keep all the great and loving memories. David Touchette
Sorry, for your loss Al, god bless your parents, and keep all the good memories.
Julian
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Al,
So sorry for you loss. You father sounds like he was a great man who had a huge heart and shared it with many.
Hi Al , Very sorry to hear of your father’s passing. You and all your family have my condolences.
A great man, RIP
Thanks everyone. We are mending as best we can. It has been a very difficult 6 months now. I've stepped into his shoes and taken over for him, but its been a rough time. He managed all the finances for their household and my mom had no involvement. As his dementia got worse he became more and more disorganized. Picking up the pieces has been much like pretending to be Sherlock Holmes.
I strongly advise anyone with aging parents to take as active a role in their parents lives as they can, Be sure they have a detailed plan in place and that you have power of attorney at the appropriate time. I had POA for them, which has helped but my father left little info and his plan was a single notebook page entitled " how to cope when I am gone" it contained a brief list of navigational links on a laptop he had not owned in 2 years He stubbornly refused help with bills and finances out of pride, which I understand.Dementia is a terrible thing especially when you know you have it. I don't blame him, but I have learned from this alot and wanted to share it with you all. The time to get involved with your aging parents finances and property issues is when they alive and well....not when they are declining from illness or worse, have passed on as result. It sounds so easy but most likely you will need to have many long conversations with them before they accept your help...afterall, you are always their child and who wants their child to take the parents role?
al
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Good advice Al, this is just what I am having to do for my mom who is 97 now. She balked at first, but now she understands and feels at peace with me handling everything for her. Despair at losing her ability to do it all by herself has changed to thankfulness she doesn't have to worry about any of it now. Best wishes to you Al,
Barb
Good people have a high likelihood of producing good people. You are living proof of this from your father and mother. Your father is right. Bless you and your family my friend.
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Prayers and dua for you big boss Al. Youre a real role model to follow
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Al, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Father many years ago so I know how that feels. After awhile the pain will be less and the great memories you two had will appear which helps greatly. I will remember your Dad, you and your family in my prayers. Jim